Category: Counting Blessings

Comparing & Insecurities

The devil whispers to us through our negative thoughts. I’ve always been a woman of insecurity. I am not thin like the models in magazines. I don’t have the best hair, fashionable clothes, and most of the time I don’t wear makeup.

Insecurity happens when we listen to the devils voice inside our heads. The voice saying that we aren’t good enough. We don’t know what we’re doing. We’re a bad parent, spouse, friend…These thoughts transform into insecurity and insecurity is a very close cousin to fear!

This is the devils favorite game to play with us! If he can wiggle into our thoughts, he can make you start with the, “what ifs.” Once that game starts it’s hard to kick that habit. It’s a game that I played, unknowingly, for most of my life! It’s hard to step out with courage and faith, if we have constant feelings of insecurity and negative beliefs in ourselves.

I recently read about insecurity in a devotional called, “No More Perfect Moms.”

Insecurity says, “I can’t.”

Confidence says, “I can because God will show me how!”

The easiest way to stop these feelings of insecurity is to realize that God is the main key to REAL confidence! Learn to look at yourself and your life through the eyes of how God sees you. You are beautifully and wonderfully made. Loved eternally by your one and true Creator. God doesn’t make junk!

Celebrate who you are, you were made for a purpose! You are enough! Learn to concentrate on your strengths. God endows each person with their own skills, gifts, and strengths. Yours are not meant for anyone else just as the strengths of others aren’t meant for you.

I was always comparing myself to other women. Thinking if I had what she had I’d finally be “happy.” If I could just get my kids to act better in public, I’d be less stressed out. If my husband would just spend more time with me I’d be happier. If I dressed a certain way I’d feel better. Constantly, comparing myself to others and what they have. Never being thankful for what I have…and I’ve been blessed with plenty!

Sometimes the devil is sneaky and I would compare myself to others without even really realizing it was happening. Comparing, I’ve learned, is a very slow process and causes real life problems. Before you know it, you lose touch with what you have. You lose gratification in your real life. The satisfaction with what you have erodes and you are left with feelings of jealousy and insecurity.

Comparing my life to the life of strangers on TV or in magazines or even friends was causing me to be discontent with my REAL life…My husband, my kids, and with myself.

The devil is a liar. A sneaky liar. He wears you down over time until you don’t remember what God has blessed you with.

The only way to stop this behavior is by leaning on Christ. Counting your blessings and submerging yourself in The Word. By doing these things I’ve begun to turn from the evil whisperings of the devil. Trust God with all of me. I know now that God has given me exactly what I need for now. I know that God has a plan for my life and the life of my family. There is so much freedom in believing in the TRUE love that God has for me.

Action: Do you ever feel insecure? Do you or have you ever had a problem with comparing yourself to others? I’d love to hear your story!

Be blessed. Keep your eyes on our Father! ❤

Everyday Happy: Being A Mom

My kids were “inherited” or at least that’s how I explain it to people that don’t know us.

My husband and I met and dated when we were teenagers. That was nearly 20 years ago. Then life happened and we both met, married, and then divorced. During this time my husband was blessed with 3 kids. Currently they are: 8, 12, & 14

Being a fulltime step mom to 3 VERY different kids is a tough job. Step moms don’t always get the best kind of reputation, but I’ve hung in there. Refused to give up on them although there were moments when I thought of running for the door. We’ve weathered the worst of storms together. Now, we are a family. A very close family I might add, even though the devil hasn’t given up completely with his shenanigans.

No matter what I’m their mom and they ARE mine! You probably won’t ever hear me utter the word step mom again. It’s nothing personally against their birth mom, I don’t mind sharing one bit, but I am their mom too…not a step.

I guess I always wanted to be a mom, have children of my own, but I am glad that God had a better plan for my life. These kids needed a woman in their lives to love them as a mother does. As I said before, it hasn’t always been easy, but we’ve become stronger through it all.

My favorite times are when we are all being silly together. Listening to them laugh. Watching them smile. Playing a game of Monopoly for the millionth time because it’s Turtles favorite board game. Listening to Zane talk about getting older, girls, and sports. Tucking Emma in each night and saying prayers. To me, these are the most important parts of being a mom. These things are the things that make me a happy mama!